Can we please discuss the strange relationships between coworkers? Because co-workers, like friends and family, take up a lot of your time, probably even more so than your friends and family. Honestly, think about how much time you spend at work. If you’re full-time, you’re doing a minimum of 40 hours a week, but realistically closer to 60 hours a week. That is 40-60 hours of your precious week spent at work, and when a group of people who spend 40-60 hours of a week together, some people tend to feel a little too comfortable and forget that there are professional boundaries put in place for a reason.
I once had a manager who followed me on ALL of my social media. I’m talking about Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram, and when I met my now boyfriend (who is white), she asked me if I should be posting things about the Black Lives Matter Movement because it might make him uncomfortable.
I know I looked at her crazy, and not that I needed to defend what I post, but I quickly let her know that 1. I’m a black woman who has black brothers and will eventually have black children and this is an issue that I identify with and 2. I didn’t even know this man and if he has issues with my concerns regarding police brutality against people of color then that man was not for me. I also thanked her for reminding me that she was following me and blocked her from all social media, respectfully.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, going on 3 by the way and he and I have some very interesting conversations, which if anyone is interested I can discuss some of our conversations and what it looks like to navigate in an interracial relationship and still be extremely vocal and passionate about race and racism. Leave a comment below or contact me on the Q.C.C.s page if that’s something you’d like to know more about.
So, as you can see Girl, my manager was completely out of line and her perception of our relationship was harshly skewed. I personally keep a mildly flexible rule regarding workplace friendships and romantic relationships for this exact reason.
Have you ever experienced a coworker that got way too comfortable and slipped up and lost their whole mind? I’d love to hear about it, comment below!